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Wednesday, July 5, 2017

8 Ways To Reduce Pre-Pageant Stress

Pageant weekend is TOUGH for anyone, but there are a few ways to reduce your stress in the weeks leading up to competition. In fact, here's our TOP 8 Ways to Reduce Pre-Pageant Stress:

1. Read your handbook then make a list of what you will be doing and what you will need
  • Most pageants provide a handbook detailed what competitions you will have, how much tickets are, etc.
  • Make a list of items you will need, including cash on pageant weekend, as soon as you get your handbook so you have a clear picture of what needs to be purchased or done.
  • Inquire directly with your Pageant Director regarding any questions you may have
2. View videos online or ask the director if you could purchase or borrow a DVD from last year 
  • Some videos may also be available online via Youtube
  • While the walking patterns may change every year, you will get to see gown styles, fashion styles etc
3. Pack Early!
  • Create a packing list for travel and for the pageant 
  • Start packing at least two weeks earlier than the pageant weekend so you do not have the last minute stress of shopping
4. Dress rehearsals are helpful!
  • For example, practice walking in your gown, in your gown shoes, with your gown jewelry on! Practice full out too: do the smile, hold the posture etc. The more you practice full out, the more likely you will be able to do it confidently under pressure on stage.
  • Label each outfit, makeup item, etc with your name and then crosscheck it with your packing list as you put it in the suitcase
  • Put your individual outfits in individual garment bags! Then label the bags with what the outfit is for. You could also get some favor bags/organza bags for your jewelry, then attach the jewelry bag to the hanger inside the garment bag (matching the jewelry with the outfit to help reduce stress at the pageant).
5. Practice often!
  • Set aside time EVERY day to work on your pageant competitions. At least 30 minutes each day can be exceptionally helpful...and start practicing at least two months from the pageant weekend date.
  • Practice when you will be performing as well. If you have talent competition at night, practicing in the morning will not be as helpful...your voice does not sound the same in the morning as it does at night.
6. Find a good pageant coach.
  • Find someone to advise you who has won before and has a record of helping his/her clients win at this system.
  • Different coaches are good at different things. Find one who will benefit you and spend at least two months working on perfecting your presentation.
  • This also includes dance coaches, vocal coaches etc, not just a pageant coach. Coaching helps you be at your personal best!
7. Record yourself doing everything and go back to review the video.
  • If you really look, you will notice where you could smile bigger OR hold your posture better etc
  • If you could provide your coach with these videos as well, even better! The more feedback, the better!
  • Review our FREE download, "50 Things Pageant Judges Wish You Knew" (download it and take a peek, you'll be happy you did!):
8. Review your pageant schedule in advance.
  • Go through your schedule and highlight every event you must attend.
  • Note when you have breaks: you need to know when you can eat, when you can rest, when you can change clothes etc.
  • You may need to bring snacks or drinks to the hotel for in between events; just be sure to pack the mints!
  • Many hotels have room service OR maybe your mom can bring you something local to eat during a brief break...plan ahead and let your team/mom/coach etc know the plan so you do not run around hungry/stressed/tired/thirsty etc!

Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Leave Your Mark in the Interview Room

I recently finished the book "Leave Your Mark" by Aliza Licht and I loved it! In the book, Aliza talks about job interviewing, so I thought I would share some of her tips here with a paraphrased form and tailored to pageant interviews. Enjoy!

1. Do you sound cocky or confident?
Cocky: "I'm the best person on my team."
Confident: "I've been fortunate to have been able to lead a team on several projects this year."
Cocky: "I can do everything well."
Confident: "I am an experienced multitasker who works well under pressure."

Do you see the difference? Cocky is not likable, but confident can be! A smart person will admire someone who is politely confident, but it is highly unlikely that anyone will like someone who is cocky. So in your next interview, feel free to promote your skills and positive attributes without making the judges want to get your interview over with. People generally want cocky people to fail; just remember that.

2. Are you a good communicator of your strengths?
You might be great at certain core competencies, but if you cannot communicate examples of how you use those skills well, it will just end up sounding like a lot of noise. Be prepared with 3-5 examples where you can show, not just tell, how well you know your stuff.

While you are at it, take a second to download "50 Things The Judges Wish You Knew" is a FREE e-book I made to help you prepare to communicate the BEST you in all phases of competition:

3. Show that you know the pageant system.
Demonstrate that you know what the pageant system has been doing and that you have been following the brand. And please, know which system you are interviewing for! For example, what you say about International Junior Miss is not what you would say about Miss American Coed; they are two very different systems. When in doubt, check out the personal web pages and social media for your pageant system; those items should be clear tellers of what your program values and finds important.

4. Eye contact is key.
When you are having a conversation with a friend, you look them in the eye. Not to the point where it is creepy, but you hold eye contact with your friend while chatting. If you are in a group, you likely bounce your eyes from one person to another, so no one feels left out. The same holds true in your pageant interview. If you are in a panel interview, every judge is in the conversation, so do not ignore them.

5. Facial and vocal expression are the other keys.
No one wants to speak to someone who looks or sounds like a bored zombie. So please, use your face and voice to express your personality and emotions. Stop with the zombie face already!

6. Know your content.
You do not have to know everything, but you should know a little bit about a lot of things. The most common topic, believe it or not, is YOU. Your likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, personality, accomplishments and more. Also, your resume may have to be condensed for the judge into one or two pages, but you have so many more accomplishments and things to say. Practice weaving these ideas into your answers; I highly doubt your whole life can be summed up in 1 page, so be prepared to say the items you may have left out.

If you are ready to get organized for the interview and improve overall, download your FREE ebook to get started right away:

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Wednesday, May 3, 2017

5 Ways to Win Your Next Title

When you win a title that has multiple levels, you should be excited about what is coming next! So, I want you to start thinking about the 'next title up' as a 'job promotion'. So if you are a local titleholder, start thinking about your state title as the 'job promotion'. If you are a state titleholder, think of the national title as a 'job promotion'.

Reality Check: you do not get a promotion for doing your job. You get a promotion for going above and beyond your job. Do NOT feel entitled to win your national pageant; there are likely a number of other girls who also feel like they should win the national title as well.

In order to get the promotion of your dreams (i.e. the national titleholder job), you need to do a few things:

1. Take on additional responsibilities.
Do not just get your state title and do nothing with it. Make appearances, speak with government officials, make an impact. If you are not doing these things on a state/local/regional level, how will you do it as a national titleholder. Answer: you won't.

Speak about what you have done in the interview room; show the judges that you can do the job of being a national titleholder AND provide solid examples of what you have done already that makes you qualified for this job.

2. Act one level above the job you already have.
I am NOT saying to run around acting cocky. I am saying to carry yourself like the 'next level up'. Dress the part (all the time), act the part (all the time) etc. If you do not carry yourself like a national titleholder, your judges will not be able to envision you as the national titleholder. Carry yourself like a winner so others can start seeing you that way!

This includes everything from manners, to social media, to attire, etc.

3. Consider what REALLY comes next.
Many girls just want to win the next title up, but they do not consider the realities of the job ahead. Focus a part of your interview on what you can do for the pageant, not just what the crown will do for you (or how you will "use" it). By attaching the idea of your job promotion to the success of the organization, your judges will be much more likely to see you as the winner they want.

Reality check: the 'promotion' is NOT just about you.

4. Look the part.
You have seen your pageant marketing material...if you do not look the part of the 'next level up', then you may have some work to do! Coming to the pageant in sweats or having your nails in a bright, distracting color is likely not the best impression. Your look needs to scream "promote me" vs "I could care less" or "I do not pay attention to details".

5. Are you a confident speaker or presenter?
Ok, everyone says yes to this, but seriously: are you? If not, it is time to practice! If you are uncomfortable speaking with adults, how will you attract new sponsors to your pageant? If you are uncomfortable with speaking about your platform, how will you speak about the pageant?

Stop wasting time and start practicing! Put a few topics on index cards, fold the cards, and pull them out of a box. Challenge yourself to speak with confidence about these topics for at least 1 minute without fillers, fidgeting, or poor body language. Double challenge: record yourself and go back and watch it to learn from it!

If you are READY to prepare for the NEXT level, download your FREE Daily Pageant Prep Calendar here:   (it really is FREE!!)

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

5 Things To Know Before Breaking Into Acting/Modeling from Pageants

Pageants can be great for helping girls break into the world of modeling and acting, but there are some things you should BEFORE jumping into the industry:

1. You should not have to pay an agent any upfront money to represent you. Agents will get paid 10-20% of your check when you are booked on jobs. Agents get paid when you get paid; don't get sucked into paying anything upfront.

2. A model book is like an album and each page should have different photos. One could be a headshot, one could be you as a doctor in a full body shot, the next could be a 3/4 shot. The more different the photos, the more diversity you can show the booking agent. And please, don't use one photographer for all of the photos; again, agents like to see variety. Take your time to develop your book.

3. You will need training. People don't just become major actors or models overnight. Or think of it this way: you'll be much closer to a 'yes' with training than you would be without. Find a local reputable school OR program. You can even get experience in your local community theatre or take classes at your local community college. An experienced and trained professional is always more likely to get the job than a novice...just like if you were getting any other job.

4. Aim for non-exclusive contracts. Exclusivity will lock you into one agent; why would you want to be locked in to depending on ONE person when you are just getting started? More agents = more opportunities! And no, you don't need a professional manager until you have so much work coming in that you cannot balance it yourself (or mom/dad). Each person you hire (an agent, a manager etc) means more money coming out of your checks!

5. Check local casting agencies and websites for possible jobs. Start at Project Casting to get a good idea or your local film office! Note: just like there are reputable and non-reputable pageants, there are reputable and non-reputable companies to work with. Don't necessarily jump on the first thing you see on Craigslist! Check out each company BEFORE accepting a job.

I was in the modeling and acting world for over a decade before becoming a Director of Education at a leading modeling and acting school for 5 years; if you have any questions, just ask!

Saturday, January 14, 2017

5 Ways To Be An Amazing Titleholder

Let's say you win your do you become an amazing titleholder? What makes a girl more memorable as a titleholder than another? What could you plan to do with your year (or say in your interview) that will make you stand out?

Here's FIVE ideas:

1. Be active: Don't just get crowned and do nothing with the crown. The crown is an opportunity, a microphone, a platform; use it wisely. Volunteer in your community, engage with people, and aim to make a difference.
2. Journal: track every mile you travel, important people you meet etc. In fact, write down the details of what you did at each appearance, so when you are asked about your year or need content for your next interview, you don't have to struggle for already created it.
3. Be a role model: don't just be a role model when your crown and sash are on, but instead, strive to be a role model in everything you do. Engage with people, smile, make connections, be positive...especially in the world of social media - one bad thing will follow you forever.
4. Work with your director: you were crowned because the judges thought you'd be a great ambassador for that particular program...well, that program belongs to a specific director. Be respectful of their wishes and policies, communicate often, and really try your best to help build the program for the next year. They should want you to never leave vs want to get the new girl in as quickly as possible.
5. Recruit: every girl you meet is a potential contestant. Every mom you meet is a potential pageant mom. Know your marketing verbiage and do your job.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Appointed Pageant Titles: To Take or Not To Take?

Having an "appointed" title can be very beneficial! Here's a few things to consider if you have this opportunity presented to you:

What I Am Talking About:
A titleholder can be appointed by a state or national pageant to hold a specific title. This does not mean that the girl holding the title did not compete in any way - she may have undergone an interview (phone, skype, etc), an application process, or may have competed at a pageant and did well.

"Appointed" means that she will represent a specific area/region, state, or age group without physically competing on a stage for that title.

Some people consider this "buying a title" and make you feel less worthy of being at a pageant. That is nonsense. If you want to attend a pageant and are ready to compete, go for it...but consider what I have to say below:

Some Examples/Further Clarification by Popular Pageant System
Take for example, the USA Ambassador Pageant. The pageant recently celebrated its' 6 year anniversary and it is growing every day. This means that, right now, they may not have a state pageant in EVERY state. But, if you contact the national office and say that you want to compete at their nationals, they will discuss the option of giving you an appointed title so you can proudly represent your state/region/age group at nationals. With a few fees and some paperwork, your crown and sash could be delivered in a few weeks!

At National American Miss, if you place in the top 5 of your Queen's Court, win an optional, or place in the top 5 of an optional at the state level, you can compete at NAM Nationals with an appointed title. Many girls opt to represent their hometown, so "Miss Cute County" or "Miss Crown State". At this pageant, however, you do not compete for the state queen title. NAM has a separate national competition for the girls with appointed titles, called the National All-American Miss pageant.

At International Junior Miss, many girls who competed at the International pageant the year before choose to return. Since they cannot represent the same title again at Internationals, the International office allows them to return with an appointed title. In some small states, the International office also allows the 1st runner up to attend Internationals, with the same respect and honors as the state titleholder - they compete for the same International title as the state titleholder (see above: unlike at NAM Nationals where only a state titleholder can compete for the National American Miss title and the appointed girls can compete for the All-American National title in their age division).

In the Miss USA program, some states have their contestants wear a sash at the state pageant saying the local area they are from. On your application, you would indicate what area you'd like to represent. In the Miss America Organization, you must win a local title before competing at your state pageant...unless you are from a small state where everyone can compete at states...but you will be assigned/appointed a local title.

Things To Remember
1. Being appointed does not make you any less worthy of being at the pageant. 
If anything, it means that you are committed to working hard and that you sincerely want to compete at the next level.

2. Being appointed does not mean that you will not win the pageant.
The year I won my National title, I was appointed from Maryland because there was no Maryland Ms. that year. I went to Nationals wearing the same crown on my head and same sash across my heart as the other Ms who did have pageants in their area. I ended up winning!

3. Be aware of the expenses you may incur.
You will likely be responsible for the same OR slightly different things than girls who were not appointed.

At NAM Nationals for example, state queens who won their state pageant get their entry fees paid, while girls who are competing for the All-American title do not. At USA Ambassador and IJM, everyone is responsible for their own ad fees.

4. Be very clear on expectations.
Some pageants may require a certain number of appearances from you, even though you are appointed. Some may require that you do not compete in any other pageants for one year's time. Make sure you are clear on expectations before just jumping the gun on taking an appointed title.

5. Do NOT take an appointed title just to have a title.
Some girls think they will never win a pageant, so they take an appointed title...then they get to Nationals and do nothing because they had no idea what to do in the first place. They just feel embarrassed and like it was never worth it - do NOT be this girl/mom.

HOWEVER, if you are using the title for the right reasons, I say go for it! Some girls want to gain confidence, want to volunteer in their community (reminder: you do not need a title to do this), want a foot in the door for appearances and believe a title can help with all that - IT CAN. If you are in it for the right reasons, I say go for it.

Please see a REAL pageant coach and get an honest assessment before applying for your appointed title. If your REAL pageant coach thinks you have what it takes, do it. If there is some hesitation and maybe you need to work on some things, take the time to work on the details so you can really rock it at the pageant! Don't just jump the gun on getting the title and then do nothing with it OR waste the money because you just wanted to be there.

With your success in mind,

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

5 Ways to Use Social Media As A Titleholder

I’m sure you’ve seen this: girl wins a pageant and instantly creates a social media page with her new title. You LIKE or FOLLOW the page and then well, never really see anything from her. What a shame. What a waste of a title!

The post below introduces 5 ways (although there are many more) to use social media as a titleholder. Some of you may have a page run by your director and thus, may not have much say in your page. Some of you may have complete access to posting or have someone who posts for you. Whatever the case, you can utilize social media to make the most of your year, encourage others to compete, and much more. 

Take a below at my post suggestions below:

1. Introduce yourself
Try making multiple posts about who you are as a person. Are you a dancer? Gymnast? Artist? Musician? Whatever you are, try to humanize pageantry: show the world that they too can compete and win the crown. Show your fellow “girl musicians” or “girl Anime lovers” that you are breaking the pageant stereotype. Your posts could encourage someone to compete and thus, make a huge difference in their lives. You can indeed 'be the change you wish to see in the world' of pageantry...

2. Share information about your pageant system
Why did you choose your pageant? What do you like about it? When is the next pageant event? Introduce the world to the awesome-ness that is your system and keep them informed. Sometimes people have to see or hear things 10+ times to even recognize it on their timeline, so keep doing your job and promote the system you represent!

3. Be a role model
Refrain from sharing content that would make people question your integrity or values - what you share can reflect on the pageant system you represent. Be sure to clean up your social media pages; if your grandma would question it or would be offended by it, it probably isn’t appropriate. And never forget that what you do on social media never goes away; people can screenshot things, print them, edit them etc. To avoid such issues, strive to be a role model in everything you do. If something is ever in question, that’s the hint to just avoid it.

4. Be an inspiration
Share all of the great things you are doing! Maybe you are volunteering once a week or participating in a championship game. Encourage others with every post that you make! People could always use encouragement in their lives, so be sure to bring that energy into their lives whenever you can.

5. Share content
Maybe something grand has happened in the world of pageantry, or where you volunteer, or with your role model! Share the positive content and create a sense of engagement on your social media page. When someone comments on your page/photo/post, be sure to respond quickly, politely, and enthusiastically: make sure that people know you are running your page and want to encourage engagement and conversation. When people see that a “real girl” is on the other side of the screen, they will appreciate your response….and who knows, maybe they know someone who will be interested in competing for your title in the future (note: it is your job to be the face of your pageant system for one year and this includes bringing in more people to compete)! 

Notice: I have shared 5 ways to use social media as a titleholder; one for each workday of the week. Yes, this means that you can indeed post 5x/week on social media! Think like a business; we tend to engage with businesses that we see more on social media - think of the fave celeb who’s quote you just retweeted or that organization’s picture you just loved on instagram. Social media is a way to connect and collaborate often, not just post when you win or ride in a parade.

Furthermore, by creating social media pages that are truly engaging, you can help humanize pageantry and that’s super important to us here at #TeamBV. It’s time that people stop thinking of pageants as just “fake teeth and fake hair” or those girls who ride in parades and “smile and wave”, but would never hold a conversation or “couldn’t be a real person”. Help end the “pageant girl stereotype” and create a new understanding of what it means to be a pageant girl: someone who loves her community, is a real/everyday girl, and who engages with people so she can inspire them to achieve their wildest dreams.